Have you felt like your love story started like that of Romeo and Juliet only to die down after settling together for a while? The phase is quite unexpected but happens to the best of them. Feelings do cool off with time to allow for a deeper engagement. The decision made in respect to this may chart the course of a relationship to either build up or let go of each other all together. The mistake most couples make is assuming that just because their feelings are over, the relationship is doomed and that they would be better off apart. There is a huge chance of getting that conclusion challenged in counselling as well as getting a new lease as far as marriage life is concerned.
The aim of couple counselling is to enhance the couples connection. An opportunity to tell the love story as it were before is offered to the couple. This gives that tick and brings back great memories. They are then ushered to a new phase that involves being honest about how their love spiraled into what it is at present. This gives insight to the counsellor on how to go about the process of reuniting the couple in tailor made manner. There is the part of identifying the endgame of what they would like their marriage to be and with that information on the table, the therapist has all the tools they need to facilitate the healing process.
Conflict resolution procedures form the next point of address. Problems are magnified where lack of equally problematic ways are used to go about them. Pointing fingers has never once been a solution and are better off replaced with more effective solutions. Counselling makes that difference and helps couples find their way to resolving or accepting issues as they are depending on their magnitude. This creates an atmosphere of acceptance , forgiveness and trust. It also brings about the aspect of vulnerability allowing for trust , intimacy, respect , a togetherness of sorts to be possible in instances where it might have been eroded like in cases of affairs or others.
Some relationships may not be salvageable. The amount of pain and hurt in them might make it much harder to reconcile them. As a matter of fact the couple might actually be better off on their own. It is even more necessary in such situations to seek help from a couple counsellor. Helping them set aside their differences and let go of any ill will that they may have towards each other is the main purpose of counselling in this case. This helps in amicable parting and gives them a new lease in life as each starts on a clean slate.